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Dating Advice Launches LaunchDAte™ in New Zealand to Promote Single, Available, Insightful and Well-Adjusted Men and Women Who Are Looking for Someone Special

Auckland, New Zealand, October 16, 2008 –(PR.com)– Dating Advice is now offering a new service called LaunchDAte™, a new dating concept of being marketed anonymously onto the dating scene, in New Zealand.

Denise Corlett, founder of Dating Advice, the first and foremost dating advice service in New Zealand, launches LaunchDAte™, a new dating concept of being marketed anonymously onto the dating scene, on Monday, 20 October 2008. This service is available all over New Zealand and offers lots of benefits that those using internet dating or dating agencies have enjoyed while taking away some of the frustrations and difficulties too.

“In many respects, this is just an extension of the services currently being offered by Dating Advice” says Denise. “I’m helping people to be the best they can and in the process increase their chances of coming across somebody right and special for them. Some of that is marketing yourself better. ”

Many people hate the idea of putting themselves on the internet, particularly if they don’t know what to write, don’t want to show their photo so all and sundry can see it or because they are wary of attracting and dealing with people that are dubious. With LaunchDAte™, a profile is written for each advertiser, highlighting the essence of each person and what they are looking for. There is a photo of the advertiser, but this only gets sent out once the advertiser has approved they want it sent to an interested party. The vetting service provides a nice intermediary between advertiser and interested party, so all those tricky questions and important information can be revealed (according to the privacy settings of the advertiser) before any connection occurs between both parties. And it doesn’t have to go any further. If one party chooses to not proceed, it’s face saving.

This service has some benefits of internet dating. The ability to go and browse the profiles of the advertisers is open to anyone with access to the internet. That is huge. In addition, people can view anyone’s profile 24/7 whenever they want. If there is interest in someone’s profile, interested parties just need to contact Dating Advice for further information. That means interested parties can gain a bit more information, according to the advertiser’s privacy settings, but also have a chance to share more information about themselves and what they are looking for.

While Denise is quick to deny that she is not a matchmaker, she points out that people can do their own choosing of who is of interest to them. But they get some of the advantages of a matchmaking service. She acts as an intermediary and knows her advertisers well, having consulted with them knowing their strengths and weaknesses, their readiness for a relationship, what’s important to them and a relationship and much more. She believes her advertisers are well-adjusted, insightful men and women who are all looking for that someone special in their lives. For that reason she is more than happy to market and promote them for the great women and men that that they are.

Dating Advice has an introductory offer which closes on 17 October 2008. More information can be found at www.datingadvice.co.nz/LaunchDAte.htm

For more information, please contact:
Denise Corlett
Dating Advice
Phone: + 64 9 5217449
Mobile: + 64 21 2626720
Email: info@datingadvice.co.nz
Web: www.datingadvice.co.nz
P.O. Box 87050, Meadowbank, Auckland 1742, New Zealand

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LaunchDAte

What you say! It’s a new dating concept between online dating and an introduction agency…with someone else marketing you. If you:-

 

 • Hate the idea of marketing yourself on the internet – not knowing what to write, attracting the wrong types or not wanting to put your photo out there so all and sundry can see you

 • Want to view a range of insightful and available single men and women from all over New Zealand who are keen to find and be with that special someone in their lives

 • Want to be marketed 24/7 whilst remaining anonymous

 • Know that your privacy is paramount, discretion is the key and that you control what information is made available to interested parties

 

Dating Advice has had the pleasure of meeting with and working with some great guys and girls from all over New Zealand. Many of you have asked for my help in finding someone special. I have enjoyed giving you guidance to come into contact with someone special and have promoted a multifaceted approach – be that with dating agencies, events, internet dating, joining clubs, increasing interests, seeking help from friends and family, approaching people who you come into contact with etc. However, dating advice now has a new service to compliment all these other avenues of meeting someone special. It is called LaunchDAte. If you are interested in either LaunchDAte marketing you or if you are interested in finding out more about anyone featured in LaunchDAte, then please contact Denise on 09 521 7449 or info@datingadvice.co.nz

 How it works

 For LaunchDAte advertisers you get:-

• Your personal profile written – highlighting the essence of you and what is important to you
• Displayed 24/7 for the time period you allocate
• Vetting of any interested parties by Dating Advice prior to contacting you

To be on LaunchDate you need to:-

• Have at least 2 hours worth of consultations with Dating Advice (face to face in Auckland and telephone outside of Auckland) – Yes I have got to get to know you to best market you!
• Agree to the Terms and Conditions of LaunchDAte
• Photograph – allow Denise to photograph you or alternatively provide a recent photo of you available for interested parties to view – .jpg or .gif format preferred.
• Sign a form that sets out your privacy settings and that the information you have provided is true and does not mislead in any way.

To enquire about someone featured on LaunchDAte you will need to:-

·          Have a telephone consult with Denise Corlett of Dating Advice.  The more information you provide to Dating Advice (including a photo), the more we can share with an advertiser on LaunchDAte about you.  You have the option of a consultation with Dating Advice as well.

 Check out more information on www.datingadvice.co.nz

 

If you are interested in Dating someone at work; Whether he or she is ready for commitment or Signs that your first date could lead to a second date then check out the latest Dating Tips at www.datingadvice.co.nz

In addition, Dating Advice has just enabled customers to access some of their services by use of PayPal.  Check out some of these today.

I had a great question the other day regarding the best way to proceed to dating a girl.  so I thought I would share this information with you.

“There is one thing that seems to puzzle me.
 
Some people keep telling me that I should be a woman’s friend, or even their girl friends’ friend first before taking to the next level or going into a relationship. So I have to take it slowly.
 
There are some other people, including some date websites and my female friends that say I have to show some interest in her, and keen to do something together and get to know her better, and then ask her out.
 
The two approaches seem contradictory and puzzle me. The second one has always been my approach to women. In the case of X, I have been giving her signals and signs that I have a keen interest in her, but never told her that I liked her. She is a pretty smart girl, so I would imagine that she has picked up on my signs and signals.
 
Would you please give some thoughts and explanation on this?”

Firstly the following response is generic as opposed to being personalised as I haven’t viewed your communication style with women.
I would tend to agree with your convictions that the second approach is the best option although I can see some merit in the first option as well as some risks.
Let me explain.
The first option might be typical of a group of men and women in their late teens and twenties.  Often groups do “hang out” together and from this pairings off can occur.  This is often seen as a safe way of meeting and hooking up with someone from a familiar group.  In addition, it allows confidence to grow from either party as more “interest signals” are interpreted as “he’s interested in me or she’s interested in me” and then reciprocated paving the way for either party to more directly state their interest with less chance of being rejected.  As confidence grows in both men and women, with advancing age and experience, there can be a tendency to expose yourself to the risk of being rejected without the world falling apart.  Hence the second approach becomes easier.
The first option runs into danger when becoming a friend takes you off the radar of potentially becoming a romantic partner.
The second option, the one you favour, can make the whole process a lot clearer for both parties.  As your female friends have indicated, it is important to show your interest in her and indicate your interest to do something with her/get to know her better.  Once she has reciprocated her interest in you as well, then it is good to proceed to asking her out.  Your actions and interest in her over a period of time indicate that you “like her”.  You don’t have to specifically state that you “like her”.  As you get to know her better over time you will want to indicate what you like or enjoy about her.

Getting a bunch of good friends together is always a fantastic opportunity to eat great food, drink good wine and of course have great conversations…which inevitably end up covering topics such as relationships.  One topic is a relatively common one and of course one we covered in a lively discussion. 

“Letting your partner know what you need”

This is a big subject and there are so many off shoots to this.  However, if we just ask ourselves the simple question “How do I like to be appreciated” or “How do I like some special in my life to show they care or that they love me”.  As you begin answering this question you may notice some trends starting to emerge.  It might be that you like those emotions to be expressed verbally to you, or physically in a hug or with kisses, or through something like a gift – flowers, chocolates, card etc, or with a great meal.  It might be a mixture of all these or each occasion might warrant a different gesture.  Regardless, it is important to clarify which is your special way you like to be appreciated.

Why is this important?

You will surely know when you don’t feel appreciated, loved or cared for if given a scenario the gesture you thought you would receive is not forthcoming.  Usually you will then feel fed up, annoyed, hurt or upset in some way.  What you expected to receive, has not occured.  The more this happens, the more likely you are to feel more upset, annoyed and so on.

So what to do?

Let your special someone know that you like to be appreciated, loved, cared for in this specific way when this occurs.  Ask your partner what he needs in various scenarios so you can then understand this and respond accordingly.  If you both are able to reciprocate and try and meet each others needs in this way you are less likely to feel negatively towards one another.

But aren’t you criticising your partner?

I don’t think so.  Having a calm conversation about each others needs and how to meet them in a non critical way can be beneficial to both.  If you can honestly say to your partner what you need in a specific scenario, and you are aware of their needs and both of you are happy to try helping each other get their needs met, then this can be avoided.

Why don’t you just not help and not repeat the act you did that left you feeling upset?

Well you could.  However, what will this achieve long term?  Avoidance of a situation will not improve the situation in any way.  It might go away temporarily, but will rear its head again in a similar scenario, leaving an increase in negative emotions.

How do you say something?

This can vary from you mentioning the situation that upset you, clearly owning it and stating something like “I feel hurt and unappreciated when x happens”  “I recognise that people saying x to me in y scenarios is one of my needs”.  “The other day when y happened I started to feel hurt when I didn’t get x response”  “I know I would feel a lot better and would feel appreciated if you could express x in these sorts of scenarios”.

This can then lead on to discussing the partners needs in similar scenarios or different scenarios, so that both feel like they have got the other person’s interests at heart and that that need can be met as much as possible. 

It will take time to get right though…practise makes perfect…and start off with only one need and slowly build from there.

For more help on letting your partner know what you need visit www.datingadvice.co.nz

 

Internet Dating can work!

I have been talking to so many people recently about Internet Dating or Online Dating.  There have been lots of questions ranging from who uses it, how to keep safe, does it work to wondering why it is not working for them or alternatively raving about the success of it.

I kept getting a lot of similar questions so thought I would write down what I thought was essential information that people could access freely in a downloadable eReport to essentially help them be more successful.  The information includes everything from creating an online profile, to how to get the most hits to preparing for and going on your first date and is available at http://www.datingadvice.co.nz/Internet_Dating_can_work.exe.htm

When I sat down to put all this information together, I thought there were 8 key steps that people would find useful to consider.  These were:-

1. Where do you start – I think it is essential to have a strategy and really think about what you want to achieve.  You need to start with yourself and determine what you want, what stage you are at and your state of readiness.  Like it or not, you have to be able to highlight key aspects of yourself, so what do you look at?
2. The different sites - There are so many sites out there that it can be overwhelming and confusing.  You need to do your research and look at what is suitable to you and your needs. 
3. What’s going to get you the most hits – No doubt you want to attract someone right for you, but at the same time you need to balance what’s considered appropriate to share and not appropriate.  Internet profiles are one dimensional and you don’t get so many other cues such as how someone moves or the tone of their voice.  So you really need to look at how you can make the best impression with your profile.
4. What’s going to keep you safe – Lots of people talk about the risks in internet dating and unfortunately some of what we have all heard has been true.  However, there are a few things you can do to avoid complications to try and keep yourself safe.  Look at what websites you are using, what you share online, over the phone or what you do when you meet up.
5. What to say online – It’s a whole new world so it seems there is a new mode of communicating online as well.   If you want to start a conversation with someone, it usually starts with an icebreaker.  Then you need to initiate and respond to conversations.  What’s going to potentially put someone off, or what will engage them.  Also, what do you do if you don’t hear back.
6. Talking on the phone and setting up a time and place to meet – The phone allows you to gather a few more clues about the other person that can also determine whether you want to meet up or not.  Just be aware at this stage that everyone is different.  Some people do not feel comfortable talking on the phone and this may influence the conversation.  Also, whilst one party wants to meet up, the other might not be convinced yet.  So it is worthwhile considering what will help either party feel more comfortable.
7. Getting ready to meet up – We mainly look at what we can do physically to prepare for a date.  It might be personal hygiene, clothing, hair styling, grooming etc.  I think we also need to prepare ourselves mentally and consider our attitudes and how we feel about ourselves.  More than anything this will influence how the date will proceed and whether there will be others to follow.
8. Putting your best foot forward – Okay so you are now at the date.  What are some fundamental Do’s and Don’ts that will help things run smoothly.

So I believe Internet Dating can be fun and a time efficient way to meet with people who have the same objectives that you do.  Applying some of the ideas in the eReport can really assist.

Set yourself up for successful internet dating …from creating your online profile to your first date by downloading your Free eReport Internet Dating can work! at www.datingadvice.co.nz