Ask not what your date can do for you, but what can you do for your date
So you really want to impress your date? Is it in the way you present yourself, how you move, how you talk, walk, what you possess, your job and talents. Well yes, but what’s just as important is what you can do for your date. How many times do we go on a date and take an approach that is purely one sided with regards to our desires and wants. Is he/she going to offer to pay? Is he/she going to make me look good? Is he/she going to measure up to my friends/families expectations? Is he/she going to just take from me? Is he/she going to be intelligent enough? Is he/she cute enough?
You see, once you meet your date and they seem like a potential for you, a dance begins. You hedge around offering so much, waiting for the other to give, then you give a bit more. Be that information, warmth, offering to pay or whatever. Has it ever occured to you that, sometimes this distancing and only giving so much can be off putting and can sometimes lead the whole date to the point of no return.
What if you turned that around and put yourself in your date’s shoes for a moment. What could you do to make the whole experience more enjoyable for them. Could you share more about yourself, ask them more about themselves, listen and be actively interested in their conversations, empathise with a story they tell, laugh at their jokes. Having open, sharing conversations go a long way in terms of increasing rapport between you and your date and can assist greatly in getting to date number two. Could you offer to pay, could you offer them something they would really enjoy? Being willing to provide and share gives an indication of your intent to be generous and giving in a relationship and so can also help to get you to date number two. Could you make them feel important, by having eyes only for them during the time you are together. Would it be that difficult to put your phone away and turn it off, would it be too hard to not check out other singles while you’re out with them. Once again, if your date feels cared for and special this can more likely lead to date number two.
Give some thoughts to who you are and what you can offer to your date. Usually it is the simple gestures that can mean a lot. Take this attitude with you to first dates and you’re more likely to get to date number two.
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Denise Corlett, founder of Dating Advice, is an expert in helping professional men and women find, attract and be successful in relationships. For more dating advice information on how to get partnered go to http://www.datingadvice.co.nz.
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